The primary reason so many Christians get divorced is because of
"spiritual ignorance." I know many people might chuckle at the notion of the significance of spiritual ignorance in lieu of all of the
"carnal" reasons Christians so easily gravitate toward including adultery, incompatibility (you didn't know you were incompatible BEFORE you got married?), irreconcilable differences (whatever that is!), finances and various forms of abuse.
Although very important to the "Carnal Christian's" justification for divorce, these reasons are the only logical conclusion for an ill-conceived marriage between a a male and a female. Let me state emphatically,
"a "groom" is NOT a "HUSBAND" and a "bride" is NOT a "WIFE!"
The first question Christians need to ask themselves is, "Who are we married to?" The man, as he matures spiritually in his relationship with Christ BEFORE he marries, is according to scripture the "bride-groom" of Christ. This means that the man must FIRST learn how to become a
bride (through SUBMISSION which is
"service" and NOT
"slavery" to the Lord God. After a period of trials, testing and probation, the man can ascend to the place of being a "groom" (one prepared for marriage by the Lord God and not by a carnal society).
I don't believe there is a more offensive word to a Christian woman than "submission." Again, I state emphatically that the reason for this is spiritual ignorance, selfishness and blatant disobedience to the Word of God (WOG) on behalf of both Christian men and women. We have a global community of "non-readers" of the WOG who are easily manipulated by the deception of the enemy.
Let me state for the record that
the man (husband) should be the primary servant in his household as he, and he ALONE, is the spiritual covering for the wife and his children. The Lord God "covers" the husband and the husband "covers" the family. There is no other authority, person, system or paradigm designated for
spiritual covering other than the Lord God and the husband!
The authorization of "husband" can only come to a man by and through an intimate relationship with Christ. The surface stuff just won't cut it! Divorce happens because two people get married as unbelievers. God made the "man" for Himself and the "woman" for the man. A woman cannot divorce a man in the KOG. It's illegal! If this statement offends you, once again you have to be outside the KOG.
Too many women (and men for that matter) spend all of their energy preparing for the
WEDDING and put very little emphasis on the
MARRIAGE. The
Spirit of Recognition is vital in our "hearing" from the Lord on whom we are to marry. As the husbands cleaves to the desires of the heart of Christ, so to must the wife, who is a Believer, cleave to the desires of her husband's heart. Many spouses are in divorce court right this moment because their husbands are in love with Christ. They are, in many cases, jealous of the relationship. Isn't that crazy?
Don't look to your husband or wife to
"make you happy!" The joy of the Lord is your strength. Once you find your joy in the Lord you and your spouse will find success, love, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost through your mutual submission: his (your husband) to the Lord and yours to Him (Christ) through him (your husband). Can't you see? You are both submitting to Christ and He is the focus of both of your hearts.
Christians divorce because they have
"whore of the world" stamped on their foreheads. If you are a whore then you are an "adulterer to Christ." An adulterer has no rights within the KOG. If you are outside of the KOG, you are not a "son." If you are not a son, then you are a bastard. If you are a bastard, then you don't belong to the Father, The Father keeps taking us back after we continually pursue whoring of the world. Yet our hearts are hardened toward our husbands and wives to the point where we won't even entertain the notion of grace, mercy or forgiveness.
Finally, Christians will not acknowledge their
INIQUITY (inclination towards SIN and immorality) and have no fear of
TRANSGRESSIONS against God (stepping across the lines of holiness, righteous and spiritual integrity).
Divorce creates a hard heart! Divorce is of the devil. As marriage is the institution of God, so to is divorce the institution of the devil. Sin is of the devil. Sin creates division. Sin separates you from God. Divorce is sin. Therefore, divorce separates you from God. True repentance, and not remorse, will bring you back into right relationship with the Lord God.
In the marriage of an "Unbeliever, who is hiding out in the KOG masquerading as a Believer,"
the courtship is iniquity and the marriage is the transgression...